Show Your Love To Someone Special

Valentine's Day is coming up soon.  Normally, I'm not one to put much effort into holidays.  Especially heavily commercialized ones like V-day. 

But I can appreciate the concept of showing love to someone special in your life.  My only thought/ argument is to spread your love throughout the year, not just save it for one day or occasion. 

I'm very lucky that I have someone special in my life who I love and who, in turn, loves me back....  My husband Kirk (married for over seven years now).  He's my wonderful partner and best friend. 



Even though Kirk and I have busy schedules, stressful days and almost no time to ourselves, I try..... I repeat the word "try".... to tell him what he means to me on a daily or weekly basis.  He does the same.  In fact, he's even better at expressing his feelings and showing his emotions than I am.

I'm not really a romantic person at heart but I do enjoy occasional passionate or thoughtful surprises, both giving them and receiving them.  If you are feeling particularly grateful for that someone special in your life, tell them so.  Say, "Thank you for _______.  I really appreciate what you do for me and how you make me feel, etc."  

If you're a woman who loves a man, then you have it fairly easy.  After all, men only need two things to make them happy.  Sex and food.  In that order, usually.  Sex can be given freely (in most cases) and food is typically cheap too. 

I feel kind of sorry for men though as it takes more than food and sex to make a woman happy, in most cases.  Scrub a toilet, do the dishes, give us time alone, etc.  Every woman is different so it's purely a guessing game as to what will make her squeal.

But if you take the time to learn your partner's simple pleasures, you can use them later as a gesture to show your love.  Let me explain with an easy example:

Kirk LOVES cheese and crackers.  Almost every day when he arrives home from work, he reaches for club crackers; then he slices up cheese from a block and enjoys several bites.  This is his before-dinner snack. 

So about two weeks ago, I saved him the trouble of doing the task after a long day.  I placed the crackers on a plate and sliced up two different types of cheeses we had in stock.  And I included this little note with his treat:



(The note just says, "I Love You" if you have trouble reading it in the above photo).

Please don't vomit in your mouth over that.  I am not one to do this kind of thing often.  Therefore, that's what makes my gesture special and endearing.  On rare instances, I put effort into these small acts of kindness.

My expression was a quick and affordable thing to do.  Still it had heart behind it. 

Use your imagination to discover what will make your someone special happy.  Or look online for some creative suggestions on a budget.  There is a great blog site entitled Love Actually that I discovered awhile ago.  The author dedicates each post to creative and often FREE things you can do to WOW the great person in your life. 

Of course, if all else fails, a sexy outfit (or better yet, no clothing at all) will probably demonstrate your love nicely.  When Kirk came home to find that cheese and crackers treat, I wore a recently purchased Victoria's Secret gown that resembled something like this photo below:



Not naughty, but not exactly nice either.  Perfect for me, since I'm somewhere in between. ;-)

According to my husband, I don't walk around in lingerie (or nothing at all) nearly enough.  So I'm trying to make more of an effort.  I do want him to be happy after all.  He makes me happy so why not?!

Kirk, I hope you enjoyed that early Valentine's day gift from me.  Don't worry, I still have the outfit and we can repeat a similar scenario again, very soon. :-)

Now back to my point --  Don't forget to show love to those who you care about. Tell them you love them and what they mean to you, not just on a holiday but as often as possible.   

If you don't have a special partner/love interest in your life, then please take the time to tell your friends, your parents or your colleagues what they mean to you.  Everyone has someone in their life who probably deserves some kind words, a handwritten note, a single flower, baked goods or a friendly gesture. 

Happy Valentine's Day (early) to you, my wonderful blog readers and friends!  I definitely love you.  I appreciate your comments and thoughts.  I'll be away for several days, taking a trip to see family and friends.  Enjoy your holiday and spread the love in your heart.